Below are some excellent books to help prepare for parenting, reconcile unmet childhood needs & gain a deeper understanding of the complexities of the adopted child

20 Things Adoptive Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew - Sherrie Eldridge

Affect Regulation - Allan N. Schore

 All  About Adoption: How Families Are Made & How Kids Feel About ItMarc A. Nemiroff & Jane Annunziata

And That’s Why She’s My Mama - Tiarra Nazario

Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents - Deborah D. Gray

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control - Heather T. Forbes & B. Bryan Post 

Children of Open Adoption - Kathleen Silber & Patricia Martinez Dorner

Drama of the Gifted Child - Alice Miller 

From Fear to Love: Your Essential Guide to Parenting Adopted & Foster Children - B. Bryan Post 

Hold Onto Your Kids - Gabor Mate, MD & Dr. Gordon Neufeld

How I Was Adopted - Joanna Cole

How to Do the Work - Dr. Nicole LePera 

How to Meet Your Self - Dr. Nicole LePera 

How to Be the Love Your Seek - Dr. Nicole LePera 

I’m Yours: An Adoption Story from a Mother’s Heart - Ashley Cameron 

I Wished For You: An Adoption Story - Marianne Richmond 

Loving our Kids on Purpose: Making a Heart to Heart Connection - Danny Silk 

1-2-3 Magic - Thomas W. Phelan, PhD 

Mother Hunger - Kelly McDaniel  

No Drama Discipline - Daniel J. Siegel, MD & Tina Payne Bryson, PhD

Nurturing Resilience in Our Children - Robert Brooks, PhD  Sam Goldstein, PhD 

Oxytocin ParentingSusan Kuchinskas & B. Bryan Post 

Parenting from the Inside Out - Daniel J. Siegel, MD & Mary Hartzell, M.ED 

Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child - Holly Van Gulden & Lisa M. Bartels-Rabb 

Scattered Minds - Gabor Mate, MD 

Some Babies Are Adopted - Cindy Walker 

The Whole-Brain Child - Daniel J. Siegel, MD   

The Story of My Open Adoption - Leah Campbell 

The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD 

The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy, and Love - Susan Kuchinskas 

The Connected Child - Karyn B. Purvis, PhD, David R. Cross, PhD & Wendy Lyons Sunshine 

The Connected Parent - Karyn B. Purvis, PhD & Lisa Qualls 

The Great Behavior BreakdownB. Bryan Post 

The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole - Lori Holden with Crystal Hass 

The Primal Wound - Nancy Newton Verrier  

We Belong Together - Todd Parr 

We’re Not All The Same, But We’re Still Family - Theresa Fraser & Eric E.W. Fraser  

What Happened to You? - Bruce D. Perry, MD & PhD & Oprah Winfrey 

When the Body Says No - Gabor Mate, MD

Yes, I’m Adopted - Sharlie Zinniger 

You Can’t Make Me - Cynthia Ulrich Tobias