What is open Adoption?
Prior to the 1970’s, the most common type of adoption was closed adoption. Secrecy surrounded the process to protect the privacy of all people involved. The birth parents and adoptive parents rarely met face to face or ever knew anything about each other. Adoptees grew up with questions, fears, fantasies, and sometimes, a feeling of abandonment. Toward the early 1980’s, the process of adoption began to undergo some drastic changes after some members of the adoption triad began to express their pains and difficulties with a closed adoption. Now, most adoptions are open adoptions.
Not everyone agrees on the definition of “Open Adoption”. At a minimum, it means that the birth parents and adoptive parents share “identifying” information. At the Adoption Center open adoption means “no secrets”. Birth parents can choose the family they think is ideal for their child, can meet them if they wish, and have the opportunity to get to know the adoptive couple during the pregnancy. Over the years they have the opportunity to share photos, letters and even visits through the years. Open Adoption is NOT shared parenting. But, the birth parents have an opportunity to have an ongoing relationship with the adopting parents and the child. Our adopting families and birth families form a close, ongoing relationship that benefits the birth parents, adopting parents and most importantly, the child. Each situation is different. Some adoptive and birth families form a natural, easy connection and have a comfortable ongoing relationship, they become “extended family”. Other birth parents prefer getting pictures and updates over the years. The success of open adoption is based on trust and respect for and between the parties involved.
In over 20 years of adoption experience, we know that every birth mom LOVES her baby. She would have parented if circumstances were different. She chose adoption for her baby’s sake, and sacrificed so her child could have the life she could not offer at this time. With OPEN ADOPTION your child grows up knowing their heritage, their medical history or why they have big eyes and a beautiful smile. Most importantly, your child will know the love of their their birth parents, and that they are deeply loved and wanted by their adoptive parents.